Friends Who Say...

If you had friends who constantly tell you again and again ‘You are stupid – nothing you do will succeed’ or ‘You are not as good as the others around you – accept yourself for who you are’ or even ‘You can keep trying but I am telling you, this will not work’, or hmm, ‘Have you considered what will others think if you do this?’ what would you do?

Would you continue to remain friends with them? Maybe, but you would definitely not meet up with them every day. You will avoid them or maybe even fire such friends (if you are courageous). I am guessing, you will not be comfortable with such friends. Who needs enemies when you have such friends, who squeeze the joy out of life....

Yet, when these very same things are told by your internal voices, when you embark upon something, you keep listening to them every single day and also act upon them through inaction. The result? PARALYTIC LIFE!

And these voices grow so big and manifest themselves as Fear of failure, Fear of Rejection, Fear of people’s approval and the list goes on. Have you ever come across this in your day to day life?

Here’s the news – these are the most common paralytic symptoms among all of us and each and every one of us encounter these in our day-to-day lives. It is how we deal with them is the trick. Do we give in and listen to these so-called ‘friends’ or do we fire such ‘friends’ and spring into action?

In my course of work, I continually work with empowered individuals, who have the ambition and the drive and yet the above mentioned ‘friends’ shackle their full power. How to ‘unfriend’ them? People say ‘I thought this was the voice of reason’. Well, think again!

You have the responsibility to live your life – what that means is that you have the power to actively choose your life the way you want it to be. That makes you empowered and the joy of living comes from empowerment. If you choose to be with such ‘friends’, you are choosing but you are not choosing powerfully.

Recognize what is on the other side of the door and what it would be like to live unshackled and powerfully.....