Thursday 19 September 2013

Being Comfortable with the Uncomfortable...

I wish I was told this when I began my career approx 2 decades ago –

Have you ever felt the urge to go ahead and do something that is hugely uncomfortable to you? Or is the natural path to avoid any task that causes you discomfort eg addressing a gathering, taking a stand as opposed to the general group sentiment, making a decision and the list goes on.

Typically, the questions that arise in our minds are – What will people think? How will I be perceived? What if I fail? What if I am rejected?

In the coaching world, we call these as saboteurs/gremlins – anything that sabotages our natural instinct and inhibits our actions and twists the person we inherently are. So who are you inherently?

Instead of acknowledging the saboteurs, we justify our inaction to ourselves by saying things like ‘I am uncomfortable with this, let’s not create more discomfort’, ‘I will speak when the time is right’ and this goes on….

As leaders, taming your saboteurs and those of your team members are paramount. A simple mantra ‘Be comfortable with what you are most uncomfortable’ can change your career. 

If you are trying to avoid a task, ask yourself what is your comfort level with that task? Make a list of tasks that are highly uncomfortable to you and make it a point to practice doing them every week. Get the uncomfortable tasks out of your To Do list as early as possible every day, so it does not hang upon you like a Damocles sword.

See how it feels and allow yourself to fail. Notice at what point in time you actually become comfortable with the task and see what opens up for you thereafter. What does this do for your leadership?

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